I think all of my toenails are falling off. I just got home from a 9 mile hike/rock scramble and my whole body hurts. It’s the good kind of hurt though. The kind where you feel like you accomplished something incredible. I woke up early this morning and decided to hike Old Rag Mountain. It was a pretty spontaneous decision but I felt like I needed some alone time.
This week has been pretty intense at work and although I only have two weeks left until I go back to the ICU, it feels like some people are upset about it. I can’t help the change, and in fact, I’ve stayed in my job for almost 2 months since I put in my official notice so at this point I don’t feel that there is anything else I can do. I’m just trying to keep my head down for the next two weeks.
My summer course finished on Tuesday which was a nice relief but it made for a busy start to the week. This weekend has been incredible but very busy and filled with socialization. I loved every minute of it and I’m glad that I had today to do my solo hike and regenerate for the week ahead (us introverts need that alone time every now and then).After my hike I stopped at one of my favorite vineyards and bought a bottle of white wine that I plan to sip on tonight. I am home with enough time to order some take out (Thai food will go great with the white blend I bought-the Gibson Hollow 2014 if you’re curious) and try to finish Orange is the New Black.
I know things have been silent around here lately and that’s (mostly) due to the fact that I haven’t had a computer at home. I’ve been using my iPad at home a lot and putting off the time until I actually had to purchase a computer but as classes start next month I figured it was time to bite the bullet and do it.
The other reason why I’ve been is absent is because I’ve been busy. I moved into my first home and had to hard core adult all by myself (while taking a grad school course and working 2 jobs). I’m finally settling into a routine and I feel like the dust is starting to settle. Now that that’s happening I’m reevaluating my life a little and fine tuning what’s important to me. Unfortunately right now, that means that my priorities are changing. I’ve grown so much stronger in the past few years and I’ve become so much more independent. Because of this, I’ve learned that its ok to say no. It’s ok to put your foot down and its ok to stand up for yourself.
I’ve often struggled with asserting my needs and feeling like I’m being too aggressive. When I was younger, I was always told that I was too vocal and that led to the deterioration of certain friendships as I grew up. I think I compensated for that by letting myself swing in the opposite direction during my college/post college years. I’ve learned recently that its possible to set boundaries and that you can’t make everyone happy. Sometimes you have to be a little mean to stand up for yourself-no one else is going to do that for you.
As I enter this new stage in my life, I’m becoming ok with the fact that my relationships are changing. I’m thinking of one in particular as I write this post and I’ve had some time to come to terms with it. While I try to go out of my way for my friends, I don’t have room in my life for those who only have time for me at their convenience. Friendship should involve a give and take from both parties and it shouldn’t just be assumed that because you’ve known someone for ages that you’ll always be around.
If I’ve learned anything this summer its that you shouldn’t hold grudges towards people as we all have struggles. However, there is absolutely nothing wrong with knowing when you’ve had enough that its time to let go and move forward.
I know things have been quiet again around here so I figured I would use my unplanned sick day to show my blog some TLC. Hopefully, this is just a cold but to take precaution I took the day off from work leaving me with the time to finally reflect on the past few weeks. I’ve been insanely busy and things aren’t slowing down anytime soon. Last week, I closed on my very first home! I am so excited to have a place to call my own and to finally be putting equity into a place rather than just renting my life away.
I’d been toying with the idea of buying a house but I really didn’t think that it would be a possibility for me for a long time. Especially since I’m starting graduate school this summer and I really didn’t want to live very far from work/school. The market in the area that I wanted was either way out of my price range or not up to my standards of living. But luckily, I found the perfect little townhouse tucked away about a block from where I currently live. I still can’t believe how perfect it is for me, or that I’ve committed to making such a large purchase.
I spent the last weekend at my house cleaning and starting to paint the place. A few of my friends came over to help me which really made the process go by a lot faster (and much more fun). On Sunday, I headed back to the house bright and early to work on the second coat in one of the bedrooms before meeting up with my family for Mother’s Day. Joe and his friends rented out Skybar for the afternoon and the moms really appreciated hanging out. After dinner, we headed back to my brother’s house where I spent the evening playing basketball and football with my brothers. For once in my life, I actually outplayed them! David swears it was “because he played soccer all morning.” Excuses, excuses.
All that activity must have caught up with me though because yesterday I woke up with an extremely stuffy nose and my throat, which had been sore all day Sunday, was still pretty sore. I suffered through work but was able to leave early to go to the doctor’s. I was a little worried I was going to get septic again. I never found time to blog about my post-Africa experience but I got extremely sick and ended up in the ER with a fever of 104 when I came home. Luckily, they never found anything seriously wrong and chopped it up to a cold/UTI/exhaustion from traveling. So far, this cold has been a walk in the park in comparison to that. For now though, I’ve been alternating between lying in bed and on the couch with tea and water and soup by my side. Fingers crossed that I’m back to myself tomorrow because I had planned to spend another Saturday working on my house this weekend!
Last weekend was absolutely beautiful. I’m so happy that warm weather and sunshine have finally showed up around here. Since this week was Thomas Jefferson’s birthday, Charlottesville celebrated its annual Tom Tom festival. Friday, I spent the evening hanging out with my brother and sister-in-law chasing my niece around Lee Park. There was live music and of course local brews.
On Saturday, I woke up early and snuck in a quick workout at 9Round before hitting up the Farmer’s Market with a few of my old coworkers. I had to work at the vineyard at one so I said goodbye to them and headed out of town to work for a few hours. I could get used to this late afternoon shift, it gave me enough time to enjoy my whole Saturday while also making some money. I brought home a box of wine to share with my parents and my father started a fire in the backyard for us to sit around. I also snuck in a s’mores because we had the supplies and what’s a fire without marshmallows?
I’ve been watching High Carb Hannah on YouTube and she’s started a cycling challenge for herself. I’ve always wanted to get into bicycling since its so popular around here but I find myself making excuses all the time. My mother happens to have a very nice bike that she rarely uses and since we’re the same size, I asked to borrow it. On Sunday morning I woke up early again to get a ride in since I really didn’t want to be anywhere near cars and I figured there wouldn’t be too many people on the road. I biked to a local park and got a lot of practice in on some pretty mild (for Charlottesville at least) hills. I started to get bored doing the same thing over and over so when I was confident enough, I headed back onto the street to Cville Coffee. I stopped for about half an hour and had a cappacino before finally heading home. When I checked the time, I realized I had been gone for two hours and discovered I had gone over 9 miles. Not bad for my first workout.
I spent the rest of the day running errands and snuck in a quick trip to Costco to load up on some much needed produce. I bought a HUGE container of oranges and lemons as well as a bag of kale and made some green juice. I can’t believe how easy and cheap it was compared to buying a fresh juice from the store. I will definitely be doing that more often.
For the third and final part of our trip we traveled to Zimbabwe to visit Victoria Falls. As one of the 7 Natural Wonders, the falls are the tallest in the world. While admittedly there really wasn’t much to do in the town besides visit the falls, it was worth it to see such a beautiful sight. We also got to relax in the National Park and I squeezed in a game drive the night we got to the lodge. Just a few hours north of our stay in Hoedspruit, the scenery was abundantly green and luscious.
The day we visited the falls we also perused a local market and I got my first taste at haggling for goods (it’s a skill I’m not very good at) and we also took a boat ride on the Zambezi River. Technically, I can say I’ve also been to Zambia but since we never got off the boat and onto land, it was totally legal.
Although a quick stay, I am glad we stopped here. Zimbabwe is a country I doubt I’ll ever travel to again (although I never imagined I would make it to Africa in the first place so who knows). Although I have spent time in some of the poorest parts of America (looking at you Appalachia) even these towns seem luxurious in comparison. Where we stayed in Zimbabwe, it wasn’t uncommon to see people living on the side of the road- and this was in a tourist area. By the time our stay in Victoria Falls was over, I was happy to finally be heading home to America. With the journey back came a renewed sense of gratitude for everything I have in life. However, I will admit, when our final plane out of Johannesburg took of for the States, I shed a few tears thinking about how much I would miss Hoedspruit and Cape Town.
Before the beginning of this journey I didn’t know what to expect. I’ve never been pushed out of my comfort zone so much- even though I really didn’t have much to complain about given the nature of our trip. I am so proud of myself for doing something out of the ordinary for me and I was lucky to have one of my best friends as a travel companion. We traveled surprisingly well together knowing when to give each other space to get acclimated to our new surroundings everywhere we went.
Now that I am fully settled in back at home (with more big changes soon to come), I’m happy to have the memories from this trip to fall back on. I’ve decided that my next big vacation will probably be here in the states as there are a few things on my bucket list that I haven’t gotten around to (more specifically: Glacier, Yellowstone, Yosemite, and Jackson Hole as well as a few cities I would love to explore). I’m sure these trips will happen eventually but for now my bank account needs to recover.
After what I thought was the most incredible three days of my life, Abby and I departed Cape Town hopeful that the next part of our journey would at least be a lot of fun. We had no idea that the second part of our trip could be even better than our time in Cape Town. We stayed at the Jackalberry Lodge in Thornybush Private Game Reserve which is right next to the famous Kruger National Park. We went on a game drive every morning and evening to explore the reserve and try to find the Big Five.
The Big Five are named as such because they are considered the five most dangerous animals to humans when encountered on land. They include: lion, leopard, rhino, elephant, and cape buffalo. Apparently the group that came just days before us were unable to spot all of the animals because they spent a long time searching for leopards and were unable to find them. We were lucky enough to find one on our first drive!
It was hard to see how dangerous some of these animals are when they’re relaxing. All the sleeping cats we saw reminded me of my kitty at home-although I doubt they would want to cuddle with me like Reggie does. Things were much more intense however when we found a male leapord on a hunt a few days later. You could feel the tension as he stalked a warthog from afar. We also saw an incredible number of elephants, cape buffalo and rhino-both black AND white. I couldn’t believe that we saw both types of rhinos in the wild! At one point, our car went off roading (one of the benefits of staying at a private reserve rather than going into the National Park) and we found ourselves in the bush surrounded on all sides by elephants! They came so close to our car we could probably have touched them and went about their business eating.
The final animal we saw (and my personal favorite) was of course, the lion. Growing up The Lion King was my favorite movie and in college, my best friend bought me tickets to see it on Broadway for my birthday. I actually cried at the surprise and to this day it is one of the best presents I’ve ever recieved. I’m not quite sure why I’ve always loved lions but I think there is something so beautiful about an animal at the top of the food chain that is also so playful and social with its family members.
Someone asked our tour guide what his opinions were about the whole Cecil the Lion debacle that happened last year and his response was really interesting to me. He basically said that the story was sensationalized and that nobody in Africa actually cared about the lion. It reminded me of an article I read when the story first came out about how lions are terrors to Africans and how the local people hunt them because of how dangerous they are. Although the original story upset me, it was more upsetting because I find it just another example of American greed and excess. It was interesting, however, to hear how the backlash from established countries actually really hurt the tourism economy in several African countries due to the money they get from hunting excursions.
Another thing I found very interesting was the realization that race relations are still a very touchy subject. I didn’t notice it as much in Cape Town but I assume that is in part to the fact that it’s a city and we were in a tourist area for most of our time there. There were a few moments where I felt uncomfortable because someone made a remark that would be inappropriate in our culture (or at least I would be offended) but seemed completely normal there. It made me appreciate the fact that although we still have a lot of work to do here at home in that department, there are still many places in the world that are so much farther behind us in their race relations. It also makes me wish our country could set a better example so that others would be encouraged to catch up a little faster but that’s a topic for another day.
Leaving Hoedspruit and the Jackalberry Lodge was the most difficult part of our trip. I hadn’t been outside in the wilderness in a long time and I had missed it so much. Every night we ate dinner under the stars and I loved seeing new constellations. It was pretty funny when more than one person insisted they saw the Little Dipper which isn’t a constellation you can see in the Southern Hemisphere. The only constellation we share is Orion but it was pretty cool to view it from another part of the world.
I know its been a long time since I’ve been around but to be honest, March was pretty jam packed this year. I can’t believe that today is the 1st day of April and just three weeks ago I was in the most amazing country. It still feels like a dream which is partly why I haven’t posted about my experience yet. Writing it down means that its over and that I’m back to my usual routine.
To preserve the trip in my mind, I’ll post about each city we visited individually as we experienced too much to jam it all into one post and I have so many great pictures to share.
After a 17 hour flight to Johannesburg followed by another flight to Cape Town, Abby and I arrived just in time for bed on the first night. I woke up early the next morning and had coffee in the hotel cafe overlooking Table Bay. That was kind of my thing every morning and that view is one I’m already longing to see again. We took a helicopter tour of the bay and then Abby and I rented some bikes and explored.
On our second day we went to Franschhoek which is the biggest wine producing area in South Africa. We went to two beautiful vineyards and sipped some delicious wines before heading home for the evening. We called it a night after having a quiet dinner at the hotel with the rest of our tour group.
On our third and final day in Cape Town, Abby and I took a Hop and Ride tour of the city and it was incredible! We stopped in Bo-Kaap where I found the cutest little spice shop and got some really cheap spices to take home with me. We also took some obligatory pictures in front of all the colored houses. The colored houses are especially beautiful when you know that they were originally painted by Africans who were freed from slavery and moved into the neighborhood. They were so excited to be free that they painted their houses in bright colors in celebration of their ability to wear whatever colors they wanted and to finally be able to express themselves.
We finished our stay in Cape Town with a dinner at Gold’s Restaurant which was an interactive dinner with traditional African dishes from throughout the continent.
Cape Town was an incredible city and it kind of reminded me of San Francisco, California. Except much prettier (in my opinion) and a lot cheaper (I mean A LOT cheaper-but duh everything is outrageously expensive in Cali). I could’ve stayed in that city for weeks without becoming bored. It was also an incredible way to start my first adventure into a new country as everyone spoke English fluently and the city was vibrant and felt so safe during the daytime. When we got on our plane for the second leg of our journey we were both so sad to be leaving after only 3 days. Little did we know how incredible the second part of our trip would be.